Support in Deepening, Healing, and Growing in your Love
This being human is a guest house.
Every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
As an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they’re a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out
for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.
Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.
From Essential Rumi
by Coleman Barks
is a Personal Growth Path
Jeannie and Mark are both Professional Certified Coaches, and have worked with Couples using Council, Voice Dialogue, Non-violent Communication and DiSC and MBTI personality styles. We bring all of these modalities together to focus on what will best serve your partnership and what you want to create in your relationship.
Sometimes it just helps to have an outside perspective, a trained ear and some new tools to move you from where you are to where you want to be. Council brings in a new level of listening and spiritual guidance, Shadow Work helps you work through underlying patterns of wounding, and Voice Dialogue helps shed perspective on and shift the consistent and familiar “negative bonding patterns” that you find yourself in.
We believe that it is important to understand your own and each others’ underlying patterns in conflict, and to be able to communicate your needs, values and underlying wounded places that are usually contributing to the current breakdowns. We have found that vulnerability is the key in moving from a stuck place to a place of realignment, and sometimes that is easier to achieve with support.
Our goal is to create greater compassion, understanding and clarity about your current situation, so that you can get into agreements and ways of being that support the kind of relationship you want to create. In addition, we work with primary relationships as a vehicle for personal and spiritual growth. We hold that the container of a relationship is bigger than both people individually. See Couples Council Retreats for more information on what we call our “relationship angel.” When we invite in this bigger perspective, we have a good chance of looking at things very differently than when we are in a collapsed or triggered place.
Here are some of the things that relationship and couples coaching can help with:
- Visioning the kind of relationship you both want
- Expressing underlying needs and feelings
- Creating new mutually satisfying agreements
- Working through places that are keeping you stuck individually and as a couple
- Transforming unhealthy communication patterns
- Working with anger and resentment
- Getting clear about your relationship commitments
- Working through issues before marriage
- Deciding if you want to stay together
- Learning new tools to communicate clearly, without an emotional charge
We are also both ceremonialists and can co-create a wedding, hand fasting or union ceremony or a divorce or separation ceremony with you. We believe it is important to mark whatever transition you are in.
Mark and Jeannie can either work together with you in couples coaching or you can choose to work with one of us. We honor your choice to walk the path of relationship as a personal growth path! Please contact us for a free 15 minute consultation to see if we are a good fit for you.